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"Heal so you can experience genuine connection without traumatic attachment" Dolores Cannon
YEARNING FOR A SOULMATE
The most common request people have when they come to see me is to help them find their soulmate.
We all yearn to be loved and to share our life with someone special. Why is it so hard to find someone who treats us with respect, hears us, supports us, uplift us, sexually satisfies us. It is because we attract how we feel about ourself.
WE ARE TREATED AS WE FEEL ABOUT OURSELF
Remember we attract the person who is the exact reflection how we feel truly about ourselves. If we feel like a victim, we will attract a bully. If we feel that we are not enough, we will attract a person who will constantly remind us that we are not enough. If we feel we are not worthy of love, we will have a partner that will be very tight in expressing their love for you. Any unbalance in the relationship reflects unbalance within ourselves.
WHY DO WE CHOOSE TO BE IN AN UNHAPPY RELATIONSHIP
The answer is very simple. We are unaware we are doing this. We are unaware of how we feel about ourself.
WHY IS IT SO HARD TO FIND SOMEONE THAT MAKES US HAPPY
It is because it is so hard for us to look in the mirror to see our wounds and heal it. We attract what we see in the mirror. We will only be loved as much as we love ourself.
HOW DO WE HEAL OURSELVES
There are many ways to heal our wounds. The main goal is to fall back in love with ourselves. Anything you choose to do (therapy, psychic healing and reading, past life regression, retreats etc) must focus on you and working towards self love. You will NEVER find your soul mate by trying to change someone. Remember, everyone is just a mirror/teacher of your own wounds and level of self love you have for yourself. Foundation of a good relationship is you enjoying your own company!
HOW DO WE FIND THIS SPECIAL SOMEONE
Once you are healed he/she will find you.
YOU KNOW YOU ARE HEALED AND YOU ARE WITH YOUR SOUL MATE WHEN:
1. There is an instant connection as if you have been together before
2. You can be yourself
3. You are attracted to him/her physically, mentally, spiritually and emotionally
2. You are not afraid to speak your truth.
2. You are not feeling insecure when you are alone. You actually enjoy being alone.
3. Your dreams are not compromised.
4. Your growth is supported.
5. You do not feel jealous.
6. You have common and individual goals.
7. Communication as opposed to threats.
8. You can communicate without words
REMEMBER ! YOU DESERVE NOTHING BUT THE BEST! TO ATTRACT THE BEST HEAL YOURSELF FIRST!
Mary Allison: The Truth About Relationships
It's extremely rare to see two people in a relationship for the pure expansion of human consciousness, but when you do, the magnetic energy they emanate is nothing short of holy.
Most people use relationships as coping mechanisms. They haven't grieved something from their past and instead of confronting their inner world they grasp outwards, sometimes clinging to whatever object their hands find.
Anytime a relationship (or friendship) is used as a form of escapism, it slows down your path and eventually causes chaos in your field.
Holy relationships, or friendships, emerge through radical self honesty. When two people are willing to not only open their hearts to one another, but to source itself, the connection becomes a transmission for elevated consciousness to enter through. This creates a prism effect, where the light their fields emit cascades farther into the collective. Connection has the potential to unroot human consciousness from the medieval/dark ages of consciousness, bringing it closer to an age of divinity.
Often, people go into relationships by way of hiding themselves, pretending to be that which they are not. This produces a subtle tension throughout the relationship that resorts in blame/shame tactics which turn a once romantic connection into a battle with the "enemy".
The ego subconsciously wants an enemy to cast its shadow upon. This way the ego doesn't have to take responsibility for its own path. The incapacity to take responsibility for the path you walk is a mode of living in denial.
In a holy connection, both parties take full responsibility for their shortcomings and calmly grow into healthier states of consciousness. Relationships, friendships, can be one of the most powerful catalysts for metaphysical growth, so long as both people are willing to look at themselves.
When I see two people who are raw and vulnerable with one another, who are unafraid to delve into their shadows without casting blame or shame onto each other during this fragile yet powerful process, I see incredible potential for humanity.
Here is to the power of connection.
Written by: Mary Allison
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